There is nothing like a dating a Bad Boy. He makes you feel so alive inside, and that’s part of why you may be wildly attracted to him. Bad Boys have this innate understanding of women. They know exactly what to say that makes you literally fall head over heels for them.
A Bad Boy is the kind of man who will tell you things like they broke the mold when they made you, or there’s no one else he can trust or share his deepest thoughts with other than you.
Hanging out with a Bad Boy can make you feel special and honored that he chose you above everyone other woman out there to be in his life. It’s also likely the chemistry will be off the charts. Unfortunately, there’s a not so great side to dating a Bad Boy. He can tell you on Saturday night that he loves you but by Sunday morning, he can disappear. Why does this happen? A Bad Boy can’t make a commitment to you or any other woman.
He loves going after the prize, the one woman he wants and desires in the moment. He’ll do what it takes to get her into his life. This is part of his charm and allure. Sadly, once the chase is over, he tires of her and starts the hunt for someone new. The chase, his words and his charm made you fall in love with him and when he stops all contact, it breaks your heart. What’s even worse is Bad Boys can come back to you when they’re between relationships.
Your Bad Boy will tell you how much he’s missed you. This gives you hope, and you fall in love with him all over again thinking he’s back for good this time. But he’s not. He just doesn’t want to be alone while he’s looking for his next conquest. A Bad Boy will continue to come in and out of your life until you decide you’ve had enough and want to put a stop to this heartbreaking cycle.
How can you tell if you’re dating a Bad Boy? Telltale signs are the extremes in his life. He’s often very handsome and very masculine. He wants the best life has to offer whether it’s liquor, cars or women. He’s often extremely wealthy and extremely fast in whatever he does. This makes him feel exciting, which is a huge part of his charm in your eyes. In the long run, dating a Bad Boy can make you miserable as he draws you in then shuts you out of his life over and over again.
I’ve had first-hand experience with this type of man and believe me, it was a painful experience for me. Shortly after my 2nd divorce, an old flame of mine popped back into my life. Since we didn’t live in the same city, we spent many a night talking for hours on the phone. He’d paint romantic scenarios telling me how he never stopped loving me and how he, unlike hubby #2 would have put me on a pedestal and never let me go if we’d been together.
I needed to hear those words (remember, a Bad Boy innately knows what you need to hear). After all the years apart, I found myself falling for him. Then, out of nowhere, the phone calls stopped and he vanished.
My heart was broken. I thought we had created a strong bond together, so I was devastated when he disappeared. When he would ignore my attempts to reach out to see if he was okay, I would wonder what I’d done to chase him away. BTW – this puts you in the role of chasing. Remember Bad Boys love the hunt and want to be the pursuer. And I’d done nothing wrong. He was just moving onto his next conquest.
Then one day out of the blue, he called me. I remember feeling so excited when I heard his voice again. It pulled me right back into his wooing, thinking this would be the time he’d stay. Did he? Of course not! It was only a matter of time before he vanished yet again.
This happened a couple of times until I realized I’d had enough of listening to this man’s hollow words. I decided it was time to attract a man into my life who would capture my heart and do everything in his power to keep it. And that’s exactly what happened. Unlike the ‘Bad Boy’, my Quality Man’s actions, not his words, made me feel loved, cherished and adored.
I hope after reading this, you realize a quality man, not the bad boy, is the type of man you want in your life! to find out more, scroll down to my bio for a link to my website and a free report.
Lisa Copeland is a leading internationally recognized love coach and dating expert for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s. She inspires and teaches women how to feel loveable and empowered as they travel the journey of finding true love in the second half of their life with a quality man. She is the author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50. Get her Free report “The 5 Little Known Secrets to Finding a Quality Man” at www.findaqualityman.com.
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