He’s looking at you. You’re looking at him. You’ve been dating for a while, and things are going well. You’re ready to take the next step. He kisses your neck. You mumble something unintelligible. More kisses. A waltz that’s getting slower by the minute. You both start to undress, but then you change your mind. You stop in the middle of your favorite love song because you just remembered something: you’re wearing granny panties. Sound familiar? Many women of different ages repeat this same mistake over and over. They invest in beautiful clothes but neglect updating their intimate apparel, otherwise known as lingerie.
For example, my friend is the epitome of a beautiful woman. She is kind and courteous and is always working out to keep herself fit and energetic. While she is always dressed well, when I helped her recuperate after surgery, I discovered her secret: she hasn’t bought new underwear in years. None of her underwear was suitable to be seen by the three Fs: a special friend, family, or even a physician.
This experience helped me develop the five rules for buying lingerie as a mature woman.
Underwear Vs. Lingerie
All underwear is not lingerie, and lingerie is not just underwear. Underwear is the term used to describe the functional items that we wear under our clothes, and the name describes the location of the garment. In contrast, lingerie is what we call items that are feminine, pretty, and meant to be seen and enjoyed. Lingerie is artfully made. French women, for example, say that girls wear underwear while women wear lingerie. The difference is huge and will dictate what you buy and how you feel when you wear it.
1. Choose the Right Undergarments for the Situation
When I helped my friend prepare for surgery, we were adamant that the surgeon not see her in granny panties. We also decided that sexy lingerie was totally inappropriate. Who wants their doctor listening to their heart while gazing at a red and black lace bra? Instead, we purchased sports bras and boy shorts for her hospital stay. Months later, when she began dating, we chose lingerie that her special friend would find appealing. Wearing beautiful lingerie will help you feel more confident—and it’s a welcome surprise that will make him feel valued and appreciated.
2. Focus on Comfort
Lingerie does not have to be uncomfortable. The days of wearing rough, itchy lace are long gone. Nowadays, the lace is thin and smooth. The silk is shiny, soft, and clingy. When purchasing lingerie, rub it against your forearm. How it feels there will give you an indication of how it will feel when you wear it. If it’s rough and dry, forget it. But if it’s soft and silky, it’s a keeper.
3. The Best Places to Shop for Lingerie for Women Over 50
There are many online and brick-and-mortar stores to choose from, and you don’t have to limit yourself to stores specializing in lingerie for women over 50. Whether you want something classy or risqué, stores like Wacoal, Victoria’s Secret, and Fredericks of Hollywood will have many choices for you. For those who want something different, online shopping is the way to go. Additionally, online shops have a more extensive selection to suit every taste and budget.
Stores like Adore Me have selections that can be simultaneously sophisticated and naughty. Yandy, Venus, LoveHoney, Bare Necessities, Free People, Skims, Savage X Fenty, and La Perla are just some of the lingerie stores available to you. There are even lingerie subscription boxes available from Wantable and Adore Me. With these services, you take a quiz to identify your style. Then a package with various lingerie is sent to your house every month, and you only pay for what you keep.
4. Choosing Which Items to Buy
Choosing lingerie for women over 50 can be an intimidating and overwhelming process. Start the shopping process by deciding what you’re looking for. Do you want a bra and panty set? A teddy? A negligée? Once you make that decision, think about the color you want. It really does not have to be black or red. What color do you love that also looks great on you?
Look for pieces in that complementary hue. Whether you buy lingerie with leather or lace is solely up to you. Take your time. Place everything of interest in your cart and browse at leisure. Choose a few pieces that will take you out of your comfort zone. Then, sort, try them on, and take your final selections home. When shopping online, be sure to choose items that are returnable or exchangeable if you’re not yet sure which styles will suit you best, or find something that’s simple and elegant that you look and feel great in.
5. A Boost of Confidence
Whatever you choose, no one can deny that lingerie makes us women feel sexy and feminine. Wear lingerie, not just underwear. Wear it for yourself and not just on date night. The best lingerie will boost confidence, whether you’re wearing it for yourself or to impress a special friend. He will feel like the luckiest man alive because you’re fun and you cared enough to wear it for him.
Lastly, I’ll tell you what I told my friend: your man doesn’t want the lingerie; he wants the woman wearing it.
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