The Plan: Falling in Love
The birth of the human heart is on ongoing process. To find your soul mate is part of this process. We all struggle for that rebirth in so many ways, in love, in finding purpose in our lives, in our relationships with our adult children, in justifying our worth to ourselves. Looking for one’s life partner, a soul mate, is a natural step and should receive top priority in the rebirthing process. We yearn to love and be loved.
You can have tremendous professional success, much wealth, a satisfying and happy relationship with your adult children and all the possessions imaginable. People can admire you. You may even be famous. With all of this, you can still be lonely and miserable. Without the love you seek, a real joyous celebration of life is absent.
Love brings light to our lives. When we feel the warmth of intimacy, loneliness is replaced. Where we felt fear, we now move forward with courage. The bumps of life seem to be gone. Our grace and elegance is renewed and we bring light and courage into the life of our new love. The beginning of this love is the chemistry we have with a new love. For most of us it is certainly lust before it is love. But for the rebirth of the human heart to continue, we need much more.
Love begins with paying attention to the other. Falling in love is a spiritual awakening. Once we begin to experience it, our soul seems to deepen every experience. When he opens up to you and you to him, when both begin to share long-held secrets, the joys that shine like stars and the pains that called you into the depths, it binds you into each other. This is the love you are seeking and the love that you deserve to have.
It has been five months since we began our series on “The Marriage Plan: How to Marry Your Soul mate in One Year or Less.” Have you been successful in your search? If so, you know that you are experiencing this rebirth of your soul. If you have not yet fallen in love with the right man, you must not lose courage. If it is something you really want, you will find this love. You must be relentless, courageous and rebuff all negativity from yourself and others. If you allow these messages of: “This is stupid.” What am I doing?” “Just because you want something, doesn’t mean you can have it,” you are giving in to the messages of defeat. You cannot be a pessimist when you seek love. You cannot allow others to give you similar messages. These messages are inhibitors to the growth of the human heart.
“When a great moment knocks on the door of your life, it is often no louder than the beating of your heart,” Boris Pasternak. Have you heard that knock? All of your senses must be on alert when your heart is seeking that one love. It does take only a smile, a touch, a laugh, an eye connection to increase the heartbeat. When you are on alert, the opportunity will happen. That is the secret of having a plan. Once that moment hits you, you are open to it. Don’t let fear get in your way. I remember very vividly the moment that my love came into my life. His smile, the light in his eyes as he looked right into mine stopped the beating of my heart. That smile and that look still stops the beating of my heart. If you have had that moment, you know how powerful it is and you can have it again. If you have not had that moment, it awaits you.
