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5 Ways to Stay Confident in Your 50s and Beyond

Confidence – The Internal emotion undermined by external forces

Confidence.  Some people have it in spades and others have to search far and wide for it.  For some, staying confident comes naturally, while others have to work at it.  Our confidence, of course, is high in some areas and non-existent in others.  It has a roller-coaster mentality of ups and downs.  I think we can all relate to riding on the confidence merry-go-round.

Confidence is defined as having trust in one’s self in regard to our judgment, ability and qualities.  But did you know that our level of confidence depends upon the degree of our emotional, physical and social health? The higher degree of emotional stability, physical good health and feeling socially accepted, the more confidence we have. 

This is rather ironic to me — confidence is a personal thing only the individual can be involved in, yet it depends on numerous outside forces.  According to a Psychology Today article, Dr. Neel Burton said “self-esteem can be undermined by ill health, negative life events such as losing a job or getting divorced, deficient or frustrating relationships and a general sense of lack of control.”  Dr. Burton states that when one experiences low self-esteem and confidence, they begin to withdraw into themselves, afraid to express their thoughts or feelings, have a feeling of powerlessness and are afraid to take chances on different opportunities resulting in missing out on life experiences.

Confidence at 50+ is about trying new things.

5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

You may not be able to change your external circumstances, but you can change your internal perceptions. Try these tips to build back up confidence you may have lost and then stay confident.

1. Learn Something New

Learning something new actually changes the chemistry within your brain.  The element in your brain that helps you learn is called myelin.  The more you learn, the denser it becomes and the better you learn new things.  Learning something new also makes you feel better about yourself.  It excites you and you begin to gain a sense of accomplishment.  This, in turn, makes you proud of yourself which gives you more confidence.  One of the most important reasons, for me personally, to continue to learn something new is it also helps stave off dementia.  People who are constantly learning something new lessen their chance of having dementia.

>READ: STRATEGIES TO DELAY OR PREVENT DEMENTIA

2. Do Something Out of Your Comfort Zone

Now this one can be a bit tricky.  When picking something to try that is out of your comfort zone, we do not want to go so far out that it may cause additional psychological, physical or emotional harm.  Here is what I say … pick an activity that you know will not harm you in any way by trying it, but will help you feel better about yourself simply for trying.  The key here is simply to try something.  You do not need to be great at it.  You do not need to succeed at it.  You do not need to walk away conquering whatever it is.  The act of trying something that makes you a bit nervous and knowing you had the courage to do it is enough to help boost your confidence.

>READ: OVERCOMING FEAR CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE

3. Retry Something You Previously Did Not Do Well

Most of us have something in our lives that we tried and just didn’t do well at it.  For me, that would be scuba diving!  One way to boost our confidence and self-esteem is to try something again and see what happens.  Many times, we may not realize that other things going on in our life may have caused us to not do well at something.  Maybe you were too stressed at the time, worried about family or your job or, maybe, you were suffering some health issue that you were unaware of until later.  Trying something again at a later time and under different life circumstances may actually result in you doing whatever it is well.  A different mindset, more mature, a different set of priorities, values, etc. may actually allow you to accomplish something you previously could not.  (BTW … I tried scuba diving again and still didn’t do well.  I discovered in this endeavor that I am claustrophobic!  So, no going underwater with a mask for me.) Positive messages and self love will help you stay confident at 50+

>READ: FACING OUR FEARS AND SLAYING DRAGONS

4. Give Yourself a Challenge You Can Realistically Do

Pick something that you know you can do, but have never tried before.  Maybe take up yoga or spin-cycling?  It might be an art class or ceramics.  Join a book club. Find something that interests you and just go for it.  Again, make it something realistic that you know you can do.  Choose something that fits into your lifestyle, interests and especially your schedule.

5. Begin to do Things by Yourself

We have all heard the saying “the more, the merrier.”  Well, this can be true.  It is actually a healthy habit to do things with other people.  The simple act of belonging to a group improves our mental and emotional state.  Being around others you enjoy spending time with increases our chances of happiness, because of the laughter, support and encouragement that comes from others.  However, it is also important to do some things on your own.  Take a day trip somewhere or a long weekend trip by yourself.  Take a new class on something by yourself.  Whatever interests you, do it by yourself.  The act of doing something by yourself means that you must rely only on you.  You must make decisions without anyone else’s input or opinion.  You must face any challenge by yourself and figure it out.  Spending time by yourself makes you believe more in yourself and, thus, you got it …. increases your confidence and self-esteem.  So have a healthy balance in life of doing things with others and doing things alone.

Stay confident over 50 by treating yourself well, because you deserve it.

>READ: ALONE TIME WITHOUT THE GUILT

Why is it Important to Have High Self-Esteem and Confidence?

One’s emotional and psychological well-being hinges on many factors in our life.  Thus, our level of self-esteem and confidence is a direct reflection of those things. Having a high level of confidence in yourself is essential to living a full and happy productive life. Here are a few benefits of staying confident:

  • Life seems “lighter” which means less stress
  • More inner peace and stability
  • Attracting more like-minded and positive people into your life
  • Handling difficult situations more easily
  • Less inner self-critic chattering in your ear
  • Makes you happier
  • Opens you up to different opportunities
  • Less likely to be influenced or controlled by others
  • Makes you kinder and nicer to others
  • Less comparing yourself to others

Ladies, our minds are powerful!  As I have written before, what we put into our minds or allow into our minds has a direct connection to what manifests in our lives.  What we feed our minds results in how we think of ourselves.  Nothing is more important than what YOU think about YOU!  I am not saying that it is easy to not compare ourselves to others or to listen to those who have negative things to say about us.  However, you must love yourself and know who you truly are regardless of what others say.  Self-love is critical to a happy, health life.  The more you love yourself, the happier you are and the less you listen to the chatter of others.  Feed your mind positive things every day about yourself!!  Go out and know you are beautiful, you are strong, you are courageous, and you’ve got this world by the tail.  See what amazing things happen when you know who you are and have confidence in you!

>READ: SELF-CONFIDENCE COULD BE YOUR SUPER POWER

>READ: IT’S A CONFIDENCE GAME

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