Some people set no distance requirements on potential suitors. One Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 reader shared she was romanced by a guy half way around the world for over two years! (They never met and he went poof one day.)
Other people have ridiculously short distance requirements. Some men list 10 miles as their dating radius in their dating profiles. Unless you live in New York City, I think this is too small. An hour’s drive seems reasonable to me.
Throughout my post-divorce dating, I was always clear I didn’t want a long distance relationship. Even thinking that, I’ve been entranced enough with four of the 112 men to explore dating them. With three of the four, I spent hours on the phone with them, often talking every day for up to several months before meeting. Two I never saw after one date, and one I saw 3 times before he went poof.
Then I found myself in a 600-mile long distance relationship. Why? Because he is a great, loving, smart, romantic, thoughtful guy. The long distance has its pros and cons.
Here’s what I’ve found so far:
On one hand, long distance dating takes more effort. In addition to traveling to see one another, you need to take special effort to keep in touch on more than a superficial level in between. However, some relationships thrive on having a little time and space between the pair.
I think it is easier if you have an already established relationship where circumstances require you to be apart for a few months or year. When developing a relationship, however, you both have to be clear the effort is worth it.
This is an excerpt from In Search of King Charming: Who Do I Want to Share My Throne?, part of the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 series. Order it at Dating Goddess.
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